The Best Questions To Ask A Potential Boyfriend
A Potential Boyfriend
The reason why asking questions is so important in the dating process is that it can give you answers to what you want to know and potentially save you a lot of time.
If you find out some disturbing things from the person after asking questions, at least you won’t waste your time going into a relationship with this person. You will know right then to stop dealing with this person.
Or you might find from this person’s answers that he is a great fit for you. It’s very important to thoroughly listen to his answers without judgment.
Dating can be for fun or it can be ultimately how you find your soulmate. Getting to know someone is a beautiful and fun process. When you are on a mission to find true love, not just anyone will do.
Important questions to ask a potential boyfriend
1. So what are most of your days like? This will allow you to find out how he spends his time outside of work.
2. What do you want to do with your life? What is your biggest goal in life? Finding out what he wants to do with himself will let you know what his passions are. Finding out what he wants to do with his future will allow you to think of all the possibilities with him in your future.
3. Do you want kids? If so how many? If not, why not? If you want kids, this can be a deal-breaker but that’s okay, at least you know. Ask if he already has kids? Be sure to get a clear number. If he has multiple children, be sure to ask how many “baby-mamas” he has. You need to know how many children and other women you will have to deal with.
4. What is most important to you in your life right now? This question will tell you his values.
5. Who do you look up to the most? Most people have someone who they look up to. Its who they consider being their hero.
6. How long have you been in the dating market? You need to know how long this person has been single. Time-wise you are looking for a happy medium. You don’t want someone who is two days out of their last relationship.
Then someone who has been single 5 years or more makes you wonder too because by then they are so comfortable being alone that it will be a huge adjustment being in a relationship again.
7. What’s your idea of fun? This will allow you to see what it would be like with this man.
8. What do you believe marriage should be like? His values will come through on this question. You will really know what he’s about.
9. Have you ever been hurt before? Has your heart ever been broken? This is very important because if the answer is yes, then you need to know how long ago it was. Was it 2 weeks or 2 years? If he says 2 weeks, sorry, but you are just a crutch while he is going through this painful time in his life.
10. In a relationship, do you think it’s okay to have friends of the opposite sex? If he says yes, ask him how many female friends do you have. What if he has female friends? How do you feel about that? Some guys have female friends that they are just not willing to stop talking to for anyone.
11. Why do you feel like all your relationships in the past have failed? This serves multiple purposes. This lets you see if they will take any ownership. You can also get a good idea of what types of issues he had with past relationships.
12. What is your zodiac sign? Knowing his zodiac sun sign will tell you a lot about the type of person he is. Although your entire birth chart plays a role in who you are, most people act just like their sun sign more than anything. That’s why that’s the only part of the birth chart that anyone ever really talks about.
Know matter how many questions you ask, you will always try to leave a few things out. Seriously sit down a make a list of the things you would like to know about this person.
Don’t go into a relationship blind finding out things as the days go on. Find out as much as you can beforehand so you can know more of what you are getting into.
Its better to let go now while things aren’t too attached rather than wait until to are too deep into the relationship because it will be SO MUCH harder to break up. There will be more feelings and history to get over.
There is no right or wrong answers here so no judging him. If you have possibly met your twin flame, you don’t want to scare him off. Use the answers to your insightful questions to him to guide your decision in continuing to date this man or not. Make sure you don’t come off “interview-ish”. Paying attention to his body language to tell if he’s lying to you.
Although you want all these answers to your questions, try to play it off. Be more natural about it. Only ask a few at a time. This isn’t a one-way conversation so you can easily make him more comfortable by also answering your own questions.
For example, once he tells you his passions, tell him yours. Once he tells you whether he wants kids or not. You can tell him your dream for kids. Hopefully, you have some similarities in what you both want out of life to build on if you embark on a relationship together.
He gets to get more insight into you and make a decision based on your answers too. Remember ladies, this is not a one-sided dating experience either. Although you are a prize, he ultimately has to make a decision too.
You will only know the answers to your questions IF YOU ASK! Don’t be afraid to ask. Just going with the flow is beating around the bush and could potentially waste a lot of your valuable time.
I know all women probably wish he would just give her all perfect answers with every single thing you want to know about him but that’s just not how men work.
The more you know about him before starting a relationship, the better. Being blindsided with some news while you are well into a relationship will highly annoy you. Maybe they are wrong for not saying something sooner but sometimes you failed to ask the right questions from the beginning.