Learning To Trust Again After Being Hurt
Learning to trust again
We are only human. When something happens that hurts us or someone close to us, we learn that we cannot trust everyone. It then makes you put up a “mental wall” so that no one else can ever do what was done to hurt you again. This is a very natural reaction.
We naturally want to protect ourselves from the same hurt. However, did you know that holding on to the hurt that others have done to you can hurt you more than help you?
You Must Learn To Forgive
To forgive by definition means – to stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake. When you are hurt by someone else, initially the word “forgive” may not be what you want to hear at the moment. Truth is, that’s ok. Give it some time.
Some things can take two weeks to forgive and some can take much longer depending on what happened and how that individual. Everyone’s healing process is slightly different. You must forgive and trust in order to have a healthy relationship.
You must find it in your heart to forgive this person of this action as you will not able to move on with your life living in your true happiness. It’s a much needed selfish act that will help you move on with life.
You will be unable to handle new relationships that can be the best relationships ever because you are still holding on to what someone else did to you in your past. Please do not ruin what your future has in store for you by holding on to the past. Forgiving someone from the bottom of your heart is a lot easier said than done.
1. The first thing that needs to do is work on yourself to become a better person. Be patient with yourself. The forgiving process won’t be overnight. It takes time. How much time will differ in each situation and person.
Working on your inner emotions will help you began to accept what happened in a way that doesn’t make you okay with it but makes it okay to move forward. Meditation is a great way to connect with yourself.
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You have no control over anyone else’s actions but your own.
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Learning to trust your own inner knowing. As you develop your trust in your feelings and your Guidance, you are more equipped to sense a lack of integrity in others.
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You must develop unwavering self-love for yourself that you are not willing to compromise on. This means you will need to become willing to lose the other person rather than lose yourself. You must be most important to you.
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Confidence is key in self-love. You can conquer the world with high self-confidence.