Can A Woman Be The Breadwinner In A Happy Relationship?
Who brings home the bacon?
We must first discuss exactly what is a breadwinner in a family? A breadwinner is the person in the family that either makes the most money or makes all the money in the home to support the family. For many. many years, it been so normal to be men. Today is a new day. What if women were breadwinners? Can a man be okay with this?
In this world, the person with all the money has all the power. In order for a woman to be the breadwinner in a relationship, there has to be some MAJOR communication between the two. They need to come to an understanding together about what money really means in their home. The financial conversation must be had. Discuss who will pay what. If a decision is made within the discussion, that’s LITERALLY all it takes.
Does this mean the woman who brings home the bacon is masculine? No, it doesn’t. It just means she is the one providing for the family. She can still be very feminine. Do the relationship roles change if the woman is the breadwinner. They can but they don’t have to. The roles in any relationship are ones that are agreed upon so everyone knows what’s expected of them.
This is not the popular or traditional way of doing things but that’s okay because what’s understood between them as a couple NEVER has to be explained to someone else. Men are led to believe they must be the breadwinner in the family by society. Society decides what it means to be a man. What if you could define who you are yourself? How would your life change?
Other people outside your home are going to always have an opinion about your life no matter who makes the most money. People need to stop feeling like they have to explain themselves to other people to make things sound good for them. People only need to live up to their own expectations as a couple. What may work for them may not work for other people. Other people need to mind their business and not worry about it.
Money, as well as other people’s opinions, should never rule a home. Love is what should be at the forefront. Money is important in life but love is always what’s most important. You have to value the person more than the money. Love is all some women want from a man.
Just because a man doesn’t make the money or the most money in a home does not take away from him being a good man. He may be much more valuable in other ways. Although money means a lot in the world as a whole, money isn’t everything to everybody. There are people that look at money for what it truly is which is some dirty paper that touched so many other hands before it got to theirs. People have to own their lives and be proud of it. Having control of their own lives without caring about anything else but each other will free the couple to focus on love.
Some men are great at cooking, cleaning, yard work, light carpentry around the house, mechanical skills for cars, etc. This man might just have a great heart. He is a nice person that makes his woman feel good in other ways other than providing for her financially. Believe it or not, there are women out there that can’t stand doing housework. They even hated it as kids.
She doesn’t like to cook or even know how to cook. Cleaning annoys her. She would much rather just go to work and let him deal with those things. Once a couple gets past their pride and gets to the real “nitty-gritty” about things which is love, they can be happy together.
Then we have pride. This could potentially ruin some men. This is one of the reasons successful women have a hard time finding love. He might not be able to handle being with her anymore. Men are emotional about different things than women are. Money is one of those things. Some men’s pride won’t allow this.
Some men feel best when they are providing because he feels that is what men are supposed to do. He would feel less than a man. This will vary depending on his upbringing, zodiac sign, etc. There are also men who seek these women so they can try to take advantage of them. He doesn’t have anything going for himself so he wants a woman that does so he can take it easy in life on her.
Be mindful that this is only okay if she can handle it by herself. If she starts to struggle and har man doesn’t have her back financially, then he needs to do things to work on himself so he can help her out.
He has to keep his masculinity even if the roles in life change. He is still the man of the house but they will make decisions together. Be with whoever you want to be with. Live the life that you want to live with each other.
Can a woman be the breadwinner hurt a relationship? A woman being in a relationship can definitely hurt the relationship if the man is not confident in himself. The woman has to still be vulnerable to her man to make sure he knows she appreciates him regardless of how much money he has or doesn’t have.
Some women downgrade their success because they don’t want to emasculate their men. Many women pass up huge opportunities to keep her feminity because she thinks she will suddenly have to give it up if she makes more money than the man she’s with. Is the woman being the breadwinner of the family morally the right thing to do? This is the right thing to do if both people in the relationship are very aware of what’s is agreed upon.
That’s why it’s so important to communicate. Love and communication is what will keep a relationship happy. It shouldn’t really matter who makes more money. They are not in competition. A couple should always work together as a team. Teamwork makes the dream work! Use teamwork to transform your relationship more than ever!