Relationships and how they work have changed so much over the years. If it could only be so simple.
Truth is, many people step into relationships much before they should. Some people have some growing and maturing to do. Some people have some healing to do. There are important things to do in relationships.
Why most relationships won’t last in 2023 and beyond – Want to know why most relationships don’t last anymore?
1. Relationships fail in this generation because of too much social media. These days we have Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Snapchat, just to name a few. There was none of this once upon a time.
People were much more present with each other and living REAL lives. There are so many people on these apps.
People that we know and don’t know but will get to know some new people. Many relationships will not make it past 2022 because they can’t handle doing social media the right way.
There are just too many options. Technology is making it more and more convenient to cheat. You have to have immense self-control and loyalty which many people lack.
When there haven’t been any boundaries talked about in a conversation with your partner, lines can be crossed. When the person you are in a relationship with constantly likes and even comments on certain people’s posts, it can cause some arguments in the relations
2. Dating apps. You are just an app download away from as many choices as you want for the picking. People want to have their cake and eat it too. With there being so many dating apps and websites, it becomes very easy to replace someone.
Years ago we used to have to go out to meet people. Now you don’t have to leave the comfort of your home. It’s like picking from a catalog.
Before you know it, you’ll be able to order a person on Ubereats or Doordash. People are becoming more and more disposable and connections are becoming less and less valued.
3. Many relationships fail because of people’s childhood upbringing. Some say opposites attract but oftentimes being too opposite can be a disaster. You say tomato and they say tomAto. Your differences would need to be equally accepted and respected.
Some people have beliefs from their childhood that they stick to whether they are right or wrong. For example, you might have seen your parents fight all the time while you were growing up so as an adult you think fighting with your partner is regular life.
You won’t see anything wrong with it not even realizing what you were witnessing as a child was very toxic for you to see and you weren’t supposed to be exposed to that.
There are so many grown adults walking around repeating toxic behaviors that they were exposed to. As adults, it may be difficult for these individuals to show someone love. They may seem emotionally withdrawn. This will not work in a lasting relationship.
Why Most Relationships Won’t Last
4. Most relationships fail because one or both people in the relationship are wounded adults. There are so many adults that have no love in their hearts because they were never shown much or any love. Some people weren’t hugged or kissed or encouraged too much were they were little.
Some people grew up in foster care and never laid eyes on their parents or received any love from them whatsoever.
One person wants to show love and emotion and the other doesn’t comprehend that because they never experienced love like that. Relationships can not work without the proper amount of emotion and love being shown.
5. Other people getting into your business. Spreading rumors and lies because they do want to see you too happy. People will really try to sabotage your relationship.
Be careful of who you brag about certain things in your relationship to. Without a rock-solid foundation for your relationship, it will crumble to pieces with the quickness!
6. Single friends. Your single friends will peer pressure you to death no matter how old you are. Peer pressure is not something that just happens when you are a teenager in high school or even college. You might receive some type of peer pressure all your life.
They will still be asking you to go out doing “single people” activities even after you told them you are in a relationship. It’s like they don’t understand nor care that you are now in a relationship and need to stop most of those ratchet things they used to do as a single person.
If you are in a relationship, it’s about knowing when to say “NO” to your single friends and even putting them in their place about offering you such activities now that you are in a relationship.
7. At least 99 percent of relationships fail these days all over money. Finances are a big reason relationships don’t last. Couples are scared of each other. Literally! Not enough couples are having the “money talk” with each other.
It’s a very necessary conversation to have. Since there is no communication about money, couples deal with who will pay for what as it comes instead of before.
The light bill comes to the house and everybody just looks around. Talk about who is going to pay for it before it comes! Talk about who will pay for everything.
Down to who will pay the check when you go out to eat. If you bought up the restaurant, you should pay. If your partner says something like “Do you want to go to Red Lobster?”, then they should pay.
There should be no financial surprises unless in a good way like giving them money as a gift or something.
If you pay attention, there are always signs a relationship won’t last. Relationships won’t work in 2020 because people need DISCIPLINE!
I believe in love. Relationships can still work in 2020 and beyond when two people that really love each other know how to be loyal to each other, communicate, and have self-control. Real unconditional love is hard to find.
That’s why it starts with loving oneself unconditionally. Don’t get so caught up in the relationship that you lose yourself.
More relationships would last much longer if people love themselves more. We are taken more seriously and valued more when we love ourselves.
Once we become whole with ourselves, we can then start to entertain the thought of being in a committed lasting relationship.
Self-love is the best love, then the love from your partner will come into play. This allows you to be able to make it past the 3-month relationship curse that a lot of couples go through.
Some people continue to love on the wrong person and then say ” I can’t help who I love.” Um yes, you can. You can make yourself stop loving a person that doesn’t value you.
It just takes time. Equal love is deserved in a real relationship. What you and your partner both want out of the relationship should be discussed. Whether the relationship officially “works” or not is up to you and your partner being committed to each other.